I’ve Been Holding Out On You
As many of you know, I’ve been coaching with the fabulous Suzanne Evans since April as a member of her 10K Coaching Club.
One of my main reasons for choosing her was that she doesn’t seem to be so ‘woo-woo’. Her style is very no-nonsense and business based and I really like that about her. I also loved that as part of the coaching club we had access to her entire team and could learn more about the nuts and bolts of building a six to seven figure business. I love, love, love learning new things, and I love being able to bring all of these proven ideas to my clients!
So, for me, it was all about learning the ropes of building high level coaching businesses. Not because I want to be a coach, but because I primarily work with coaches and want to be able to help them build their businesses. It wasn’t about the woo-woo, mindset stuff. It’s not personal, it’s business. Or so I thought!
At our last coaching intensive in September, Suzanne introduced a really neat, albeit devastating at first, coaching exercise on unmet needs and how they stop us in our business. I knew as soon as I was done with the excercise, that I would have to do the one thing I HATE to do, and that was to go stand up at the mic and ask a question. Over to the right is a picture of me doing just that.
Hands shaking, heart pounding, knees knocking, I forced myself to ask the question that I knew was about to change everything for me.
Long story short, I realized how my need to look good had held me back from truly serving the people who needed me most. In a way, it doesn’t make sense. People would come to me, recognizing that I had a natural talent, that I myself, refused to acknowledge, and I would turn them away.
How does that make me look good? How does it look good to drop balls, or back away from opportunities, right? Yet, it was the fear of not looking good, of not appearing professional, of not coming across as the expert, or worse yet– of someone else, knowing or doing something better than I, that kept me from doing the very things that I needed to do in order to move ahead in my business and serve the people who needed me the most. There’s also a bit of a need to stay small and hidden as well. Hence the fear of cameras, microphones and public speaking!
Can you see why this exercise can feel devastating at first?
AND, as Suzanne says, the only way out is through. So, this is me, making my way through it.
There’s the surrender. Putting it out there for all to see. It’s not pretty, it’s not graceful, and it’s doesn’t make me look so good, but that’s not going to stop me anymore! And that’s the gift.
All in all, there were about 8 or so different types of unmet needs that we covered during the coaching exercise. The bottom line being, business is personal.
How are your fears or unmet needs holding you back from serving those who truly need you? From shining your light the way you were meant to?
Is your need to look good or to be the hero holding you back from getting the right kind of help in your business?
Do you need for people to think that you’re some kind of super woman for juggling everything by yourself or with minimal help? This is a big one for me. This is the one that has held me back in a huge way and has allowed me to let some of my clients do the same. (You know who you are!)
Have you ever…
Scrapped a brilliant idea for a new product or program, delayed a telesummit or refused a client request for a different type of service/coaching because…
- You’re already overloaded?
- There’s too many moving parts and you don’t have the bandwidth to manage it all?
- You’re not confident that your existing team members can provide the support you need and the prospect of starting over with someone new is just–ughh.
I can tell you that I’ve let that stop me in my business.
I’ve held back from offering different types of service and expertise or putting myself fully out there because that would mean that there would be more for me to manage.
And there was already too much. Something would have to give. I would have to bring in more help or make better use of the support I already have.
If any of this sounds familiar to you, and you’re ready to break free, schedule a complimentary
Take It Off My Plate Breakthrough session with me. I’ll show you how my team and I can help you look good, with less stress, and most importantly, stop holding back and grow the business you were meant to lead.
Can I get a hell yeah?
No optin required, you’ll be taken directly to our online scheduler. Why no opt in? Because I don’t want there to be any barriers. This is too important. Once I made myself stand up and walk up to the mic at the meeting, I couldn’t slink away, people could see me, I had to stay up there and ask my question. Here, there’s no mic, no camera, no audience, it’s just you and that feeling in your gut. But don’t just click on the link and then slink away. Stick with your instincts and do this!
Schedule your Take It Off My Plate Breakthrough Session now.
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